I’m Here for the Baby. And I’m Here for Mum, Too.
I love newborns—their little stretches, their expressions, the way they curl into you. I love discovering the small details that make each baby themselves, and how being with them invites you to slow down. Watching a baby sleep, feed, stir or break into a little smile never gets old for me.
Even after more than 15 years as a maternity nurse, that affection is still at the heart of my work. This photograph captures a part of it: the simple pleasure of holding a baby close.
But I also love working with new mums.
Getting to know them. Hearing how they’re finding these first weeks. Helping them feel more confident, and giving them space to speak honestly when things feel difficult.
Looking after a baby brings me joy. So does seeing a mother take a breath, ask the question she’s been holding back or finally get some rest.
You can love your baby and still need support
When a baby arrives, so much attention turns towards them. Are they feeding well? Why are they crying? How much have they slept?
These questions matter, and I spend much of my working life helping parents make sense of them. I also want to know how mum is doing.
You might be deeply in love with your baby and anxious about getting things right. You might love holding them and still need a little time when nobody needs your body. You might have people around you and still wish someone would listen properly.
You can say those things. You don’t have to follow every difficult feeling with “but of course I love my baby.”
That love can be there alongside tiredness, uncertainty and the need for care yourself.
Practical help, with space for you
Sometimes we work through feeding, sleep or settling together. Sometimes you need an explanation repeated because you’re tired and taking in a lot.
Sometimes you need someone to listen before offering another suggestion. And sometimes, with in-person care, you simply need to eat, shower or rest while your baby is looked after.
A question about feeding might come with a fear that you’re doing something wrong. A difficult evening of crying can leave you doubting yourself, even after your baby has settled.
I want you to feel comfortable asking questions, including the ones you think you should already know the answer to.
Whether I’m supporting you in person or remotely, my approach is to listen carefully, offer practical guidance and help you build confidence in your own understanding of your baby.
There’s room for you here
You don’t need a neat list of questions before reaching out. You can begin with, “Can we talk this through?” or “I’m finding this harder than I expected.”
I bring experience to this work, but I also bring affection—for newborns and for the women finding their way through those early weeks of motherhood.
I’m here for the baby. And I’m here for mum, too.
About Solange
Solange Martins Stanger is the founder of SOL Coaching, a maternity nurse, women’s coach and mother of two, with over 15 years of experience supporting families. Her love for newborns and care for new mums shape her warm, practical approach. She offers in-person and remote newborn support, helping parents navigate feeding, sleep and settling while making space for how mum is feeling, too.
Explore newborn support at solcoaching.co.uk